‘Big up the dads that do’
While almost any man can father a child, there is so much more to the important role of being a dad in a child’s life. Let’s look at who the father is, and why he is so important. Fathers are central to the emotional well-being of their children; they are capable caretakers and disciplinarians. Studies show that if a child’s father is affectionate, supportive, and involved, he can contribute greatly to your child’s cognitive, language, and social development, as well as academic achievement, a strong inner core resource, sense of well-being, good self-esteem, and authenticity.
Big up the dads that do’
How fathers influence our relationships
A child’s primary relationship with his/her father can affect all of their ongoing relationships from birth to death, including those with friends, lovers, and spouses. Those early patterns of interaction with a father are the very patterns that will be projected forward into all relationships…forever more: not only your child’s intrinsic idea of who he/she is as he/she relates to others but also, the range of what your child considers acceptable and loving.
Thus, if dad was abusive, controlling, and dominating, those will be the patterns that their sons will imitate and emulate. However, if the father is loving, kind, supportive, and protective, boys will want to be that. Human beings are social animals and we learn by modelling behaviour. In fact, all primates learn how to survive and function successfully in the world through social imitation.
So, in saying that I say this ‘BIG UP THE DADS THAT DO.’